I have been out-of-pocket for over a week now due to the death of my 87-year-old Papa (Paw-Paw – Grandfather). It has been a whirlwind of a time, as he was not ill and his death was completely unexpected. Trying to find a way to deal with my own grief has been extremely difficult. But helping my girls deal with theirs has proven to be an overwhelming challenge. It has been most difficult because my grandparents (their great-grandparents) are a big part of our lives. Although they live in another state, we speak on the phone constantly and visit often. In fact, we had just gone for a visit 4 months ago and had a fantastic time with Grandmother and Papa. So the girls’ little minds are circling in an attempt to understand why Big Papa is now gone.
In our attempt to explain, first and foremost was our FAITH! As a family with a very strong spiritual background and belief system, our girls know all about HEAVEN. They know Papa is there, but they had many questions about what Heaven is like, and what Papa will be doing there. Our best effort was to try and simplify the Bible’s description of Heaven (Revelation 21). Boy was that hard to do with kids that are so young (ages 7 and 8). We’ve also shared many pictures as well as stories with them in order to celebrate his life and legacy instead of focusing on his death. Let’s pray our explanations stick for now, as I’m sure there will be tons more questions in the future.
This article assists parents with Helping Your Child Understand Death. I hope you find it helpful.
LOUIS DAVIS, SR.
“We’ll Miss You, Papa!”
Happily married mother of 2 fabulous daughters. CEO & Designer of Shootie Girl™ Custom Rhinestone Apparel. Former government and global software giant manager turned work-from-home mom and National Director of Social Media and Blogging for a national non-profit moms organization.